Nobody can be loved by all. Certainly, I can irritate others and others irritate me; this is human nature. But I do insist on being treated with respect, and will challenge insulting behavior: in private where possible, in public where not.
UUA trustee Linda Laskowski: this is for you.
First, let me be plain that this isn’t a “I love her but for this one thing.” She and I have never met, spoken or corresponded. (If for no other reason than she has no contact information on her blog, and that’s my only point of intersection with her.) Â And she did also come up with a dreadful analogy picturing the UUA board and staff as landlord and renter. (Which hardly maps, as the UUA president is also elected.) Â The more I read her — and I have been reading her blog and her board materials for quite a while — the less I think we would agree on fundamental matters of governance or Unitarian Universalism. That’s OK.
What isn’t is OK is identifying an unnamed UUA board observer — though reasonably well known to be [removed to shake off Google spiders] — as having “single minded pursuit of justice” and then bottling up any comments that aren’t completely agreeable. Laskowski clearly has not been for years on the receiving end of his incessant and profaneÂ harassment. Nor has she been a personal target of his slanderous screeds. Nor has she had to wrestle with excluding someone so profoundly, which in our tradition this is the deepest and final — and necessary — punishment. At the very least, she owes the Unitarian Church of Montreal an apology. And yes, I do hold UUA board members to a very high standard.
No, her solution was another blog post, explaining that if she allowed comments (clearly, mine wasn’t the only one left and rejected) then she’d have to allow [removed]’s. Â But she opened this can of worms. And then proceeds to use an imagination technique to empathize with [removed] — but evidently not his victims. And, of course, the comments that get through are irenic or thankful or harmless.
I understand the Pacific Central District — the one she represents — is in its annual meeting now. If you’re there, perhaps you can ask her why all of this happened the way it did.
I’ll stop commenting at her blog: fool me twice, shame on me. On the other hand, she’s welcome to comment here. ([removed] remains banned.) Oh, and others who left a comment dismissed or have been maligned by [removed] can say your peace here too. (I’ll respect anonymous comments provided there’s a real email address attached.)